In my Facebook group Spiritual Home
I spoke about the importance of how we start our day? Creating a daily practice is one of the most powerful tools I started using when I was facing one of my darkest times. If you are looking at starting a daily practice, here are three things you can do straight away.
1. Keep a gratitude notebook by your bed, list 3 things you are grateful for as soon as you wake up.
2. Read or listen to something that inspires you.
3. Stay off social media and don’t answer emails until you have had your morning cuppa or a nutritious breakfast.
In the beginning, you will feel like you are forcing yourself. Your ego mind will tell you that you don’t need to have a daily practice. After a few weeks, it will become more natural. You will find more alignment and life will look different. You don’t need to spend hours on your daily practice in the beginning, you can start with gratitude. I know what it’s like to try and grab moments in the business of the morning. Just start and you will find time to add more.
‘When the time is on you, start and the pressure will be taken off’ -Yogi Bhajan
For many years I thought that I had to be fully healed, I felt no joy, and I felt that I was always going to be miserable, then I would attract one bad circumstance after another, feeling invisible and basking in a never ending soul destroying existence. The truth is, healing from trauma is an ongoing process. You never fully heal, but what you do is you grow through it, learning to recognise obstacles, and when you catch yourself, instantly choose the path you want to take. You can actualise all of the dreams and goals that you have set yourself. You can move closer to love.
Moving closer to love is my saving grace. I have heard this expression of moving closer or choosing love many times, but I had not fully understood it. I couldn’t get it, moving toward love, choosing love. What does this even mean? My Wairua kept giving me this message of turning toward love, I heard it from many of my teacher’s lips, Like Gabby Bernstein, Wayne Dyer and Maryanne Williamson to name a few, and read it in many books. It took a rock bottom moment for me to realise what all this means is that I have to choose love instead of fear.
I was living in fear, and it was cramping my relationship with my Wairua, and I wanted that relationship back. My fears came in the form of not thinking I was good enough, lack of money, the inability to accept help or love, self-doubt, self-sabotage. Also, there were the mistakes that I made in the past that I had not let go of, things that had been done to me that I was just too angry to look at. I have more fun when I am in alignment with my Wairua, my work becomes effortless, and opportunities present themselves at exactly the right time.
Here are a couple of tips to help you through your growth period.
Growth can feel uncomfortable, and it can seem easier to give up. Feeling the discomfort can hurt. It can show up physically or emotionally, and you need to find someone to help walk you through this. If you are looking for immediate relief, check out tapping EFT. Brad Yates has some great youtube clips to guide you through this process, you can find him Here. How does EFT work? Check out this helpful article Here.
Find yourself a good therapist, preferably a psychotherapist. If the first person you get doesn’t fit with you, then try someone else. Don’t give up, you will find someone that works with you for you. Ask around and get a recommendation. There is no shame in asking for help. If you are in Auckland then check out Sonia Doulton Here.
I will be talking more about this in my book which is due to be released next March. Get on my mailing list to learn more Here
You won’t see me reposting the stories that you read or see on the internet. I get sent so many articles and stories from people that are shocked and horrified by what they read in the media. I am glad that they are shocked. It’s what we need. Still you won’t see me posting about these stories. It’s not that I am not moved or upset by these heartbreaking stories, My calling is to talk about healing from sexual abuse, the best use of me is to share how I have healed and continue to heal from sexual abuse. This is where the power lies for those that are searching for something, an anchor to help them move through their healing. I have spent the last 25 years learning everything I can about this subject. I have hit many rock bottom moments and I have found a formula that works for me. It might just work for you.
When i still felt like a victim of sexual abuse, I remember how I felt when I heard the stories of other victims of sexual abuse. I desperately wanted to do something, to make a change, but I still felt powerless to help or make a change because there was so much of myself that still needed healing. There is so much more we need to talk about and I know it is not a beautiful subject, but if we can create a dialogue, we can also shine a light on the darkness where this subject still lies.
I am creating a dialogue and if you would like to attend my talk, find out more information here
It was a wet but warm summers day in Auckland and I was on my way to the North Shore to meet with my beautiful friend. As always we have so much to talk about, it’s almost like we have already started talking to each other in our heads and we start speaking out loud in mid conversation. One of my favourite things in the world is meeting up and sharing stories and current projects and the excitement that these projects bring each of us.
I remember the day we met, it was like two old friends meeting (her actual words to me, and my exact feeling) it was really something to experience. Something clicked, I know our worlds were supposed to collide at that exact moment, no earlier, no later. I am pretty sure we have a soul thing going on.
So we are standing in line and chatting, laughing, sharing, laughing more. The doors open and we make a B-Line to the row that would bring us closest to the main event. So here we are sitting in the front row on the edge of our seats, listening, soaking it all up. We laughed, we cried, we were in shock. We shared knowing glances to each other of Yes! We know exactly what she means! There was a feeling of connectedness with each and every person in the room. It was an incredible moment to be part of.
I left that evening with even more of me healed. I was in a bubble, i was still soaking in the feeling of the evening. There was so much learning on a soul level that I am grateful for. The very act of Elizabeth sharing herself, her story and how she came to write her books was very fulfilling. It filled me with fire to get on with my work. I had heard from many writers that we are called to write a book on a particular subject at a particular time, except I had been feeling it was a burden, Elizabeth Gilbert helped me realise that creativity knocked and I answered and now we are in a dance with each other to get this book out. Sometimes I am a little clumsy, but creativity is very forgiving and mostly excited, because you chose to work with it.
A little lesson on creativity when you work on the book. It can become a little possessive of your time, you mind is caught up constantly with storylines, theories and also if you are channelling the book, you have your creative guides or god, or buddha who ever you work with wroking with you, nurturing you, protecting you, keeping you on task. When you realise the magnitude of what is conspiring to bring all of this together, you can’t help but do you part to bring the book out into the world.
To explore a little more about this idea I encourage you to read Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, no one can put it as beautifully as she can.
Big love, Big Magic